Lois (@duchess_elle) opens up to me and @eva_kurilova about her difficulties with "sex reassignment surgery," Canadian medical care, and her decision to pursue Medical Assistance in Dying (MAiDs):https://t.co/ZTdfqS11r9
— Benjamin๐ฉปBoyce (@BenjaminABoyce) January 22, 2023
My best friends want to do a virtue funeral for me. Really sad.
— Duchess Lois (@duchess_elle) January 27, 2023
I said I'm here now. Let's get together and have a bestie weekend instead.
I hope you find peace in whatever decision you choose
— Robert (@tennesseegolfer) January 27, 2023
Omg you are such a coward. Stop your whining and live your life. Teach the younger generation of your people about their culture. I can’t believe people are pretending to support you in this. ๐
— wintermalaizeteela (@TeelaWild) January 27, 2023
Such a gross thing to say to someone in so much pain they don’t want to be here anymore. Seriously just shut up
— A.L.F ๐๐ธ (@itsaliblack) January 27, 2023
Hello. My name is Lois I am an alberta first nation's person of treaty 6. Also, I am a post op transsexual woman of 13 years.
— Duchess Lois (@duchess_elle) November 22, 2022
In 2009 I was rushed into having SRS before I was ready.
Resulting in immediate regret and sterilization. ๐งต
I had started my transition in the fall of 2007 with testosterone blockers- diagnosed with GID.
— Duchess Lois (@duchess_elle) November 22, 2022
In feb-march 2008 I was sent to a endocrinologist and put on estrogen.
Every 4-6 months I was to see the psychiatrist Dr. Warneke (late) out of the Grey Nun's Hospital ๐งต
Inpatient psychiatrist unit in Edmonton Alberta.
— Duchess Lois (@duchess_elle) November 22, 2022
That is a few hours drive my reservation.
The appointments lasted 30mins-1hr.
Not once did we talk about my native heritage and the cultural impact transition would have.๐งต
In the early spring of 2009 during one of my appointments the Dr informed me that funding was going to be cut to the program that paid for SRS. And he was going to push me through as a candidate for funding.
— Duchess Lois (@duchess_elle) November 22, 2022
April 2009- I was denied funding due to not meeting the criteria.๐งต
I was crushed but also relieved at the same time.
— Duchess Lois (@duchess_elle) November 22, 2022
I was going at a "lois" pace and that SOMEDAY I would get the surgery.
The rush was due to funding cuts and I was not eligible due to the fact that I wasn't at the 2 year mark.๐งต
The Dr said he would advocate of my behalf to recieve the surgery- I thought the surgery would still be 2-4yrs away as initially said at the beginning of my transition.
— Duchess Lois (@duchess_elle) November 22, 2022
No rush!
Then June 2009 came along. I got the letter saying I was approved for funding for SRS in Montreal.๐งต
The surgery was scheduled for Sept 2009.
— Duchess Lois (@duchess_elle) November 22, 2022
Because of the funding cuts and the direction of the Dr, it was now or never.
I did feel extremely pressured to undergo the SRS.
How was I supposed to afford SRS someday?
I wish I stayed in the "someday" mindset.๐งต
Then September 2009 came.
— Duchess Lois (@duchess_elle) November 22, 2022
I was having extreme anxiety and I did tell the Dr his response was that it was normal.
I knew deep down I didn't want IT.
Even the day I was being held in a headlock to recieve the epidural at the private clinic. ๐งต
I remember waking up the next day in a panic "what have I done!"
— Duchess Lois (@duchess_elle) November 23, 2022
I wanted out of montreal I wanted my parts back.
I knew, I knew I was ready but I did it.
How do I explain that regret?
Even to this day i can't, even with the coping mechanisms I have learned, I still can't. ๐งต
I had told my then partner that I made a mistake. I didn't do it for me!
— Duchess Lois (@duchess_elle) November 23, 2022
I remember getting up to walk in the clinic and pacing around the nurses station.
What have I done? I didn't do it for me! I was constantly saying to myself over and over again.๐งต
The mistake was a daily reminder when I had to dilate.
— Duchess Lois (@duchess_elle) November 23, 2022
I became so withdrawn at this time and it wasn't until December 2009 when I told somebody other than my partner that I regretted my surgery.
I couldn't hold it in anymore and I needed somebody else to hear it.๐งต
You can read the rest of her tweets in this very long thread by clicking the last tweet above. (emphasis mine)I told my then mother-in-law.
— Duchess Lois (@duchess_elle) November 23, 2022
The weight of this regret couldn't be held no longer.
I felt disgusted with myself but it was worse than the original regret- I can't have my own biological child!
As if it were ever a option. But my biological reality was gone. ๐งต
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